Misinformed internet horde vs my internet privacy

All I ever wanted to do was make friends and engage in discussion with others online when I join any site. When people invade my privacy, I should be free to defend myself.
If I block and remove people when feeling particularly fragile, I have the right to do that.
When people aggressively post public statuses and information about me to drag me back into the open, directly conflicting with my intent to retreat into a safe and comfortable space, I am publicly attacked for it. If I try to defend myself, people post my private skype chats and screenshots of private facebook statuses in the open.

If the topic of "me" is aggressively dragged back into public spaces, I have a right to stand up for myself and share my side of the story.  If I defend myself passively, people continue to relentlessly attack me and put words in my mouth, insulting me and saying demeaning things. Why do I deserve that?

Why can't people respect that I don't want to be publicly shamed for unfair reasons?  That I do not have an army of cronies supporting me?

It's funny because these same people turn right around when they see my art and buy it.

When they see that I'm a girl, they tell me I'm cute and that they'd like to bang me.

There is a horde complex that I cannot break through there, and as a result I am defenseless as people gang up on me, and shuffle through my social media sites.  If I want to share something somewhere that I think is private and only among friends, I should be allowed to do that without fearing that someone will spread it to other sites.  People will come twist my words, without context, without the whole story, they will think they know what is going on in my mind, think they know what I am thinking. Am I playing the victim? No, I am the victim. Step back and evaluate your actions.

People are so powerful behind a computer screen, somewhere far away--but would you say these things to my face? Would you tell me that I'm unintelligent? Not worth associating with? A bitchy, unreasonable, asshole?

Probably not

And you hopefully know know deep down that it's not true, and you're just hurting someone who wants to let things be

_{I've been considering writing my senior honors thesis about trying to grow as an artist among unsafe internet spaces.... I have so much to go on.}